Mommyhood is a busy, never ending, demanding world of diaper changes, bottle and breast feedings, sleepless nights, laundry, dinner, always worrying ,and caring and homework checking. Not to mention our role as chief love-magnet and nurse. According to Happy Worker’s Mothering “Fun Facts,”mom’s spend the equivalent of three 40-hour work weeks changing diapers per child per year and are forced to stop and attend to their toddlers 210 times every day. It can be quite taxing!We are personal maids,chefs,nurses,hair-stylists, commander centers,and i could go on and on with this..and is full time!
Upon becoming pregnant, we moms are so focused on preparing for the new baby that we very seldom consider how to navigate this transition and affect our own personal growth once baby is born. Most of us spend our time planning pediatrician visits, searching for baby items and interviewing potential sitters. It would sure be nice to have compassionate mom mentors telling us of pitfalls to avoid from the beginning of our pregnancy.
Every mom get’s it wrong before she gets it right, but many mothers still struggle with being vulnerable. We must redefine who we are once we become a mother—all with less sleep, clarity and the greatest responsibility that we have ever had to assume.
But how do i get myself back??well thats a journey that im about to start!I guess i a struggle for me personally,because i love my child so much!!like beyond words!!i love that i am blessed for staying at home and being able to see him growing and developing and to spend time with him..the thing is that after my friends visit and with him being on the twos fase,how much of this "time" together are being quality time for me as well?I got myself feeling so frustrated that i actually cried after putting him on bed the other night..and i came with the realization that not only he needs to have his time aways from mommy as much as i need my alone adult time without being a mommy.
I guess when we think about identity theft, we think about an impostor posing as another person. Yet in motherhood, we are the imposters in our own lives. And it is the result of the admirable quality of wanting to give everything to our children. We forget the most important rule of self preservation: you cannot give long-term what you do not have.I think the best gift that I could give my family is a whole mom: A woman that likes herself, knows herself and respects herself enough to experience her own life. This translats to weekly “me dates” where I think i will learn to move away from all of my roles as wife, mom, business owner, etc. for a few moments. It means that from now on I will get to know “me” and to think about my life.And after that ill be able to give "everything" myself etc to my son and husband.you share more of who you are with your children as you connect with the woman you once were. Making the decision to end the “Silent War” is a decision that each of us has to make in our own time and season. We get to decide what happens in our own lives.
